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How to Transform Your Relationship with Trauma

How to Transform Your Relationship with Trauma

Trauma has a way of making us feel so alone and isolated. After we experience something so painful or tragic, it can feel like all we can do is be stuck inside of our trauma. How can we get out? How can anyone understand? However, the reality is that we can change the way we relate to our trauma. We can heal ourselves and we can heal our ability to relate to others. That is why I have brought on spiritual teacher and author, MaryJo Briggs Austin, on The Stress Less Show this week to share her story and provide a few great tips on how we can stop feeling stuck inside our trauma and transform ourselves for a happier and more joyful life. ..

How to Move Beyond Trauma

How to Move Beyond Trauma

If you have been following me for a while, you are probably familiar with my story. I began my journey into stress management after a childhood trauma led me to develop PTSD and suffer from years of anxiety, stress, night terrors, and more. Trauma is a subject very close to my heart because I know first hand how stressful and difficult it can be to process and heal after experiencing a traumatic experience. That is why this month on The Stress Less Show, we are focusing on how to deal with trauma and tragedy in our lives. This week, owner of Transfire Photography, Heather Manwaring, joined me on the show to share her story of healing from trauma and what she has done to help others and herself move forward…

How to Find The Right Therapy For You and Find Your Happy

How to Find The Right Therapy For You and Find Your Happy

Even though mental health has been starting to enter mainstream conversations these days, there is one area I think needs more attention: therapy. I’ll be the first one in the room to admit that I have a therapist I see regularly, but a lot of us out there I know still struggle with the idea of seeing a therapist. It can be overwhelming to try to push aside our preconceived notions of therapy and find a therapist - especially when we are struggling with mental health concerns or trauma in our lives. That is why for our last episode on mental health, I brought Ida Mae Devers, co-owner of Philly Family Life Counseling, on The Stress Less Show to share her thoughts on finding the right therapy for you so you can find your own happiness…

How Mental Health Can Get In the Way of Our Goals

How Mental Health Can Get In the Way of Our Goals

I don’t think it is any surprise but taking care of our mental health is incredibly important! Addressing any symptoms of depression, anxiety, and more can have a powerful effect on every aspect of our lives, and investing time into our mental wellbeing can not only make a difference in how we feel, but it can also make a difference in how we achieve our goals. This week on The Stress Less Show, I brought on Daniela Galdi, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and founder of empowerment organization, Still Standing Together, to continue our October theme of Mental Health by sharing her own story of achieving her goals while managing her mental health…

How to Manage Anxiety and Negative Thoughts

How to Manage Anxiety and Negative Thoughts

A major presentation at work, moving to a new city, planning a wedding, going out on a first date - what do all of these things have in common? They all can stir up everyone’s favorite thing: anxiety! Okay, obviously anxiety isn’t a great feeling. We feel our breathing speed up, our stomach fills with butterflies, jaws clench - not fun! For a lot of us, we feel as if there is nothing we can do about how miserable our anxiety makes us. Luckily, I brought holistic mental health therapist and owner of The Wellness Collective, Danielle Massi, on to The Stress Less Show to help us address our anxiety…

How to Ask For What You Need

How to Ask For What You Need

As a stress management expert, Mental health is a topic very close to my heart. Recently, more and more people in the media and society have been raising awareness and paying attention to mental health, but there is still a lot of work to be done for a lot of us in taking care of our mental health. That is why October is mental health month on The Stress Less Show and I am so excited to have professional counselor, Maria Reyes, on this week’s episode to talk about how we can start advocating for ourselves by asking for what we need…

How to Stay in Recovery from Addiction

How to Stay in Recovery from Addiction

To say that facing addiction can be stressful is a major understatement. Recovery from addiction to drugs and alcohol often stirs up fear, shame, guilt, anxiety, the list goes on. It takes a lot of strength to admit that we are struggling and seek help from a recovery program or expert, but that is only half the battle. When we leave a recovery program, the question that must be faced is: what comes next? Fortunately, recovery coach Mie Potter of Finding Peace came on to this week’s episode of The Stress Less Show to discuss how we can stick to our recovery even after leaving a rehabilitation program…

How to Tap Into the Power of Lucid Dreaming

How to Tap Into the Power of Lucid Dreaming

Dreams are mysterious things. They can be funny, embarrassing, heartbreaking, and even terrifying; but how many of us really understand what is really going on with our dreams? We have been talking about physical heath on The Stress Less Show this month and getting enough sleep is a huge part of taking care of our health. However, sometimes our dreams get in the way of our ability to get a full night’s rest. The fear, worry and maybe even trauma from our waking life seeps into our subconscious and manifests in night terrors and nightmares. That is why I brought on the creator of the app Dream Catcher, Evan Stites-Clayton, to share how lucid dreaming can be a powerful tool we can put in our toolbox to deal with our dreams and nightmares…

How to Stop Emotional Eating and Heal Your Relationship with Food

How to Stop Emotional Eating and Heal Your Relationship with Food

How many of us have done this: we just got home from the WORST day ever. Our boss screamed at us again, we were late to everything, and by the time we get home, the only thing we can think about doing is plunging face-first into a huge tub of ice cream and whatever else we have in our kitchens. We all have those comfort foods we love to turn to when we aren’t feeling great. However, while it may make you feel good for a moment, food is not going to make all that stress go away. This week on The Stress Less Show, we are talking about food and emotional eating - a huge issue for so many of us out there. I brought Jessica Procini, founder of Escape From Emotional Eating, on the show to help us learn how to stop using food as a way to cope with our stress…

How to Find Yourself

How to Find Yourself

You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. How many times have we all heard that before? It may be a cliche but truly knowing yourself and accepting who you are is a critical part of a healthy relationship. This month on The Stress Less Show, we’ve been talking all about relationships and this week’s episode was all about the most important relationship we have in our lives - the one we have with ourselves - because the relationship we have with ourselves affects everything else we do.

That is why I brought on Personal coach and orgasmic meditation trainer, Sofia Lloyd, to help us work on our relationship with ourselves by giving us tips on finding ourselves when we are feeling out of touch with what we want and need…

What Sets You Apart From the Rest? [The Stress-Less Career Show - Episode 7]

What Sets You Apart From the Rest? [The Stress-Less Career Show - Episode 7]

Oh my goodness, I am so grateful that we've made it to episode seven of The Stress-Less Career Show! Last week, we had a great conversation with personal stylist, Susan Padron. She gave us phenomenal tips on how to ensure that the way we dress aligns with our personal brand. This week, we're continuing February's theme of personal branding by talking about something you have likely been trying to avoid.

At the end of the day, your personal brand is your reputation. It's what people think of when they think of you. What I really want you to think about this week is how your quirky characteristics and…

How Your Style Plays Into Your Personal Brand [The Stress-Less Career Show - Episode 6]

How Your Style Plays Into Your Personal Brand [The Stress-Less Career Show - Episode 6]

The Stress-Less Career Show had its very first guest this week! I told you last week that I couldn’t wait to talk about how your personal style influences your personal brand and that is because I brought in someone very special to discuss style and branding with me. Susan Padron is a personal stylist here in Philadelphia and she is absolutely amazing at what she does, working with countless clients to help them define their personal style. As I have mentioned in the last couple episodes, your personal brand goes beyond just the basics - your website, your social media, etc. - it includes every part of how you show up in the world. Since February is all about personal branding, I thought…

Digging Deeper Into Your Personal Brand [The Stress-Less Career Show - Episode 5]

Branding, branding, branding! This month, we have been talking about personal branding on The Stress-Less Career Show and how your personal brand plays into finding work you love and having the career that you've always dreamed of. Last week, we talked about how core values are the foundation of your personal brand. This week, I really want to talk about a new way of thinking about your personal brand. I want you to think about your personal brand as a TV show. I hear you now: Carlee, what does that mean? Well…

What is the Foundation of Your Personal Brand? [The Stress-Less Career Show - Episode 4]

We're on a fourth episode of the Stress-Less Career Show and I'm super super excited to be back with you for this month’s topic. It's the beginning of February and we are going to focus in on your personal brand, how your personal brand plays into your career and why it is important. Today, we're going to start with something that I believe personally is the foundation of your personal brand and that is your core values as a person, as an employee - and if you own a business - your core values for your business as well…

How to Create an Annual Plan That Doesn't Freak You Out [The Stress-Less Career Show - Episode 3]

Welcome to the third episode of the Stress-Less Career Show. I'm super super excited that we made it to episode number three! If you haven't seen the last two episodes, I highly encourage you to go back and watch them. Our first week we talked about intention. The second week we talked last week we talked about your purpose versus your calling. Today, we're going to be talking about the importance of planning. I'm sure you have heard this saying time and time again: if you fail to plan you plan to fail. Now that January is over, I cannot stress enough that…

Determining Your Purpose VS. Your Calling [The Stress-Less Career Show - Episode 2]

Welcome to the second episode of my brand new show, The Stress-Less Career show. Each week, I will be talking about career, how do we manage stress in our career, and how do we be more strategic about it. So tune in or keep reading below for this week’s dose of The Stress-Less Career Show! This month, we have been talking all about purposeful planning. Last week, we focused on setting intentions in your career and why it is so important when you start planning for your year and beyond. This week’s episode is also related to that big picture view we…

Why Setting Intentions for the Year is Key to Your Success [The Stress Less Career Show - Episode 1]

I hope you guys are as excited as I am today! I have just released the very first Episode of The Stress-Less Career Show and I am so glad it is finally here. I teased last week that this first month of the year, my brand new show about being your best self in your career would begin by discussing planning so that we can all start 2019 feeling confident and excited about what this new year has in store for us. So we are kicking off The Stress-Less Career Show by talking about the first step in planning: setting intentions.

New Year, New Show! Announcing The Stress Less Career Show

Happy New Year! I am super excited because we have finally said Bye Felicia to 2018 and 2019 is here and happening. However, that is not the only reason why I am excited. If you have followed me over the years, you have seen me evolve from a budding YouTuber to a business owner. I’ve gone through so many changes, but the one thing that has stayed consistent is…

Get Ahead This Holiday Season!

I found myself at the gym this past week and I noticed something there that I think is so important for all of us out there who are looking to be more successful in our lives and careers. I usually go to the gym early in the morning and see tons of people working out. Typically, my gym is pretty packed at all times, so I’m used to walking into a pretty busy gym each morning. This time, however, my gym was a ghost town. I had noticed that I had been seeing almost no one at the gym for several days and so when I walked in and saw no one in the gym that morning, I had a realization about what makes successful people so successful.

What are the things that can set us apart as successful people and business owners? What makes some people more successful in relationships? What can we do to be that successful in our lives? Well, what I realized in the gym that morning is actually very simple. My gym has become a ghost town recently because it is the holiday season and this is the time of year when so many of us just kind of give up on our goals. We stop going to the gym, throw out our healthy meals and unbutton our pants to eat all of the holiday food we want. We push all of our professional goals out of our mind, let them fall to the side and tell ourselves that we’ll come back to them in the new year. It’s the holidays, I get it, but here’s the thing. Now is the perfect time to get ahead of the competition.

You have a unique opportunity at this time of the year when everyone else is slowing down to ramp it into high gear and do the best you can to beat out everyone else who is taking a break. If you are searching for a new job and haven’t looked at your resume and cover letter in a while, now is the time to sit down and update them. If you want to start your own business and get out of cubicle land, now is the time to start developing a clear plan.

This is the time to start doing the things that everyone else is giving up on for the next few weeks like going to the gym. No one is going to the gym right now. You can spend as long as you want on any machine without worrying about anyone else and have a much better time working out than you will next month when everyone is trying to work on their fitness New Year’s resolutions. The same is true for all of your professional goals. Now is the time to start preparing behind the scenes. Apply for open jobs if you can or get to know your cover letter and resume inside and out. Do whatever you can to work towards those career goals so that when everyone else comes back to the grind in January, you are already ahead of the game.

A lot of people spend December completely in vacation mode and that is important. We all need to take a break and recover when we are feeling stressed and overwhelmed. However, there is a reason why I was able to quit my job and work full time for myself. When everyone else is chilling out, I am still working hard to set myself up for the next year. I know that so many of you reading this right now have been dreaming of making a real and positive impact in the world. Taking this time off your 9 to 5 job will push you ahead of the game so that you can start your dream business or career and make a true difference in the world. If you want to set yourself apart from everyone else and be more successful, be the person that speeds up instead of slows down this holiday season.

If you need help starting 2019 off on the right foot, sign up for a complimentary clarity session with me here. Together, we will discuss where you’re at, where you’re going, what’s getting in the way and start developing a clear path towards work you love!

What's On Your Tray This Holiday Season?

The weather is cold, the stores are packed and the sleigh bells are ringing. Yep, it is definitely the holiday season! This time of year can be filled with good tidings and cheer, but it can also bring a huge heaping pile of stress in our lives. With that in mind, I wanted to share with you an analogy that will help you understand just why you may find yourself feeling like a bit of a scrooge this time of year.

For this analogy, I want you to go back to your school days in your mind. Think back to middle school or high school when you would have to buy lunch from the cafeteria. You would walk in line, grab a tray and start piling on all the different things you wanted to have for lunch. Then, you would carefully carry it over to a table to eat everything. I want you to remember that feeling of balancing your lunch tray because that is what we are doing every day with all the different parts of our lives - especially during the holidays.

Think about everything you have on your tray right now. Usually, you have a plate full of work responsibilities on one side and another plate for family obligations. With the holidays upon us however, you might find an extra side dish of holiday preparations on one side of your tray. Maybe your work plate is beginning to overflow as your boss adds on a scoop of tasks that need to get done before the end of the year. Maybe your family plate is the one that is filling up as relatives from all over fly in to celebrate the holidays. Add another side dish here for friends and another for office parties and before you know it, things are just about to spill off your tray and into a messy pile on the ground.

When we let those work obligations or family responsibilities on our tray fill up too much, our tray starts to feel heavy or lopsided. We get so overwhelmed by all of the plates we are carrying during the holidays that we spend all our energy on just getting everything done and we completely miss out on the holiday joy and spirit. The closest we come to feeling Christmas cheer is stress eating a holiday doughnut because that one relative we really don’t want to see insists on hosting the family get together this year. Now we are not only missing out on the holiday spirit, but we are also not taking care of ourselves and our personal goals.

So I encourage you to take a moment to look at what is on your tray right now. It can help to even draw out a visual of what your tray looks like. Take a piece of paper and draw a big rectangle on it. This is your tray. Now ask yourself, what is on your tray right now? What are you carrying emotionally and psychologically? A good starting point might be to draw a plate for work and a plate for family - your traditional work life balance. From there, start thinking about all of the extra side dishes you may have added on your tray and draw those. What is causing you stress right now? What is making your tray feel heavy and unbalanced?

Taking a look at what you are carrying on your tray in life will give you a clear indicator on what you can let go of and what you can shift around on your life for more balance. You can look at the tray you have drawn out and identify what things on your plates you can possibly put on someone else’s tray who has more space. Asking for help - especially during the holidays - is the best thing that you can do for yourself so that you can feel balanced and really approach the holidays with a positive and merry spirit. ‘Tis the season after all!

If you are having trouble figuring out how to manage your time, I want to help you learn how to create a plan that you can use to make sure you have time for yourself and your career goals. That is why I am doing my planning workshop, Quit Your Job: An Intensive Workshop for the Aspiring Entrepreneur, tomorrow at 6:30pm at United By Blue. In this workshop, you will learn how to develop an actionable 90 Day plan to help you achieve all the goals you have for starting a new business that supports you. Learn more and sign up by clicking this link. I hope to see you there!