How Daily Rituals and Routines Can Change Your Life [The Stress Less Show - Episode 77]

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Carlee

When you wake up in the morning, what's the first thing that you do? If it's rollover and check your phone, you are so not alone. Hi, I'm Carlee Myers, your friendly stress management expert. And this month we're talking about time management and media overload. And I brought on the incredible Mie Potter back onto the show to talk about this. Mie is known for her calming and nurturing demeanor. And as a past mentor to those in recovery, she has the patience and training to help you uncover your negative habits and replace them with loving rituals that help serve you. She also specializes in helping you get deeply connected spiritually to find the answers from within and stop feeling alone. I have to tell you guys, Mie and I have been friends for I don't even know how many years now. And every single time we connect like this. What I just told you about her is absolutely true, the energy that you're going to feel today. Oh, my gosh. So welcome to the show, Mie.

Mie

Hey, Carlee, thanks for having me on again. I always have such a great time talking to you that we completely go off on tangents. 

Carlee

Absolutely. Absolutely. So tell us a little bit more about tell us how you got here. Like, how are you how did you get into this line of work 

Mie

That. So it's actually been quite a journey to even figure out how I started with this and just a very quick, easy way to let you know. For my past birthday, my son gave me a birthday card that said happy birthday to my first life coach.

Carlee

Love it

Mie

I have basically always helped people by coaching them. And even as a high school student, I talk to my friends about journaling. As a stay at home mom, I helped my you know I kept my friends informed about the latest help self-help thing that I thought was relevant. I gave people journals for their birthday, that kind of thing. So it was really just a natural progression to doing what I do. And 

Carlee

Here we are. 

Mie

I actually wake up every day thankful that I am living the life I'm living because I just love it.

Carlee

I love it. I love it. 

Mie

And it's a privilege right. 

Carlee

So tell us. I know that we talked a little bit, you know, before we hit record, today, on the show about how we could support folks around time management. And this and the media overload, especially with everything that's going on in the world at the time of this recording. So do you mind sharing a little bit about what we can do to better manage our time and better manage our relationship to media right now?

Mie

Actually. One of the so everything seems to be coming to a head right now, as far as everyb- everybody, not everybody, most people are very, very triggered at the moment by anything that happens because we're so walking on eggshells and many people are full of fear for their future, fear for their families. And. Tired of the uncertainty, because we don't like to live in uncertainty, we like to know what's going forward, but I actually think there is a reason why it's 2020 and we're going through this right now, because out of this period of craziness will come some clarity. But that doesn't help us in the moment right now, so when you said when you wake up in the morning and the first thing that you do is check your phone, it's actually when I wake up in the morning, I check my phone and I read my devotional.

Carlee

I love it. 

Mie

And it's actually part of my morning ritual to get myself ready to start my day. And then at the end of the day, I... My ritual is to review my devotional, do some reading, do some journaling to process my day. And that's actually all part of what some people think of as that dirty phrase, time management. And it's just really having rituals that nurture yourself and help you feel prepared and process your day. And it is not, especially for those of us who are business owners and small business owners or solopreneurs, which is what I am and I use a lot of different independent contractors. We really need to pay attention to caring for ourselves and time management because we don't have a boss telling us evaluating us. We just have to do self-evaluation. And I actually told a friend of mine yesterday, I'm the worst boss in the world to myself because I don't praise myself enough. But when we especially right now, when we're living in uncertainty and we have a 24/7 news cycle and it likes to be focused on the negative, we need to be...Feel it helps us to feel in control of something, so if we carefully manage what our schedule looks like when the schedule goes all haywire, we at least know that it's haywire temporarily and we can correct and come back to what is on the schedule. And key to that is having a realistic schedule. So let's instead of thinking that we're going to go down this long, long To-Do list and get everything done, we have to realize we are busy because we're still in business. So overwhelm is a feeling like you're out of control. So if we take control of our time, we can control a thing that we. That we that actually helps us to feel better. And so if we just plan to do three things every day and get those three things done, that's a huge, huge pat on the back where you can say, I got these three things done and it's part of my overall plan. And I've been telling my friends all along like I'm in Plan Z now for 2020. Plans are out the window, but not really because a plan is simply an intended course. 

Carlee

Mm hmm. 

Mie

And you course correct. And right now we course correct every minute. And part of that is because we're surrounded by this media that likes to confuse us and bring up in alarm. Yeah, well, so we have to just control that. Right. 

Carlee

So what I'm receiving from what you're sharing is that, you know, one of the things that we can do to calm our nervous system and to lower our stress stress around our day to day is just starting with those morning and evening rituals, like everything else may go crazy. We might get 

Mie

will go crazy.

Carlee

It may be some of it. I've had a few days where it's gone, gone as planned. But, you know, I even celebrate. On Monday, I learned that one of my team members is not going to be able to stay on board. And I've got 7 days notice. Right. And that was not as planned, but I started for me. Luckily, I am still working on the evening stuff. But in the morning I had my grounding. I did my my meditation, I, I work on transforming, limiting beliefs. I do all of this stuff in the morning. And it's my sense, not only my sense of control, but it's it's the nurturing so that I can show up and manage my way. So that's the first thing that I'm receiving. And the second thing that I'm receiving is that we have to be realistic about what we can accomplish. Like how long does this task take? OK, maybe double it, put it on the calendar.

Mie

And my my mentor said to remember that practice is perfection. So not expecting ourselves to be perfect at the doing, but expecting us to continually try and the practice is the important part 

Carlee

I love that. So for those of you who are listening, we want to know, do you have a morning routine? Do you have an evening? And what is it?Let us know in the comments below. And if you are feeling overworked and you're feeling exhausted, I've got some good news for you. The Stress Less company works with high achieving CEOs, business owners and managers just like you to find that sense of peace and freedom they desire. And as a result of our work together, they learn how to properly manage their time, tasks and energy so that they can experience more free time, efficiency. And yes, even prosperity sounds pretty great, right? Well, you can apply for a complimentary stress, less clarity session today by visiting Stressless CO dot COM Apply. Now, this concludes this episode of the Stressless show. I want to give Mie a one last big shout out and thank you. Thank you so much for coming on the show. And I also want to know where can we find you. 

Mie

You can actually have a chat with me for just about 20 minutes at Bitly forward slash Fpchat20 and or you can find me on LinkedIn or Facebook.

Carlee

Awesome. And we'll have those links in the show notes for you guys. So don't worry about panicking to write anything down right now. Now, if you've enjoyed this week's episode, let us know by giving us a big old thumbs up and hitting them all or subscribe button. Thanks for listening, share if it resonated. And we'll see you next week, Bye!

Mie

Thanks Carlee bye.