Mind blowing fact: Comparison is the number one cause of unhappiness in relationships. There is a full world out there of people and things to compare ourselves too. Comparing yourself to others and, well, that's probably the end of a peaceful or happiness-filled day.
If you feel unhappy in your relationship, there’s a possibility that you are unhappy with yourself (with all that comparing our brains have a tendency to do). If you are falling out of love with your partner, perhaps it's time to wonder if, in fact, you are falling out of love with yourself instead? Of course there are extenuating circumstances where the relationship is just not a good for you but if I can grab your ear for one second I may be able to ask you some questions that shed some light on your 'less than ideal' relationship.
If you feel like you are falling out of love with your partner, try asking yourself these questions:
- Am I doing the things that I love to do?
- When I look at myself in the mirror, do I like the person that you see (my body, my soul, my essence)?
- Am I in love with myself? If no, which parts of me do I need to give some attention?
When we are honest with ourselves, these answers can be painfully or excitingly eye-opening. Are our relationships shitty or are we actually falling out of love with ourselves?
If you are feeling less than enthused about your relationship, perhaps it's time to give yourself some love.
When we are madly in love with ourselves after some time apart with our true nature, we can often come back to our partner, re-ignite that flame and draw more love into our relationship. So before you go and end your relationship because you're worried you’re falling out of love, check-in with yourself. Are you, in fact, falling out of love with yourself?
If this process feels overwhelming to you, don't worry. That's exactly why I'm here and want to offer you a complimentary 30-minute strategy session with me. During the session, we'll talk about where you're at, where you're going and what's getting in your way so you can move forward to create the kind of life you love.